April 14, 2008...8:16 pm
Where’s Mr. Roper?
Come and knock on our door…..
We’ve been waiting for you……
Where the kisses are his and hers and his…
What? You’re still here? I’m rather shocked. After the totally crappy posts I’ve been coming up with lately? I love you guys.
Well, this week we are not three’s company. This week we are mommy and newly 3 year old. Daddy dearest is visiting Beantown. It’s the second business trip in about five years…and I’m trying to break him in on the “you go away, you bring the kid back a present” rule. This trip he was under orders to not return with a piece of crap, like the last trip where he returned with a three pack of golf balls he grabbed from the LAX gift shop emblazoned with Los Angeles & a hooker-looking girl scantily clad in a bikini. He went to a store today and apparently bought the child a Curious George alarm clock?! Cause um? Well, I just don’t know why. Seems we still need to work on the business trip present.
So, with the hubby leaving me, I ended up staying up until half past the middle of the night, because I don’t sleep well when he isn’t here. Knowing I’d need to bring my A game to toddlerville this morning, I tried to stay up until my eyes shut of their own accord in order to avoid the wake/sleep battle. Yeah, that didn’t work. And, before I knew it, it was 6:28 and there was a jumping, bumping boy crashing through the ceiling over my bed. I don’t know why I was so jittery (aside from 4 hours of sleep) today. The thought of single parenting all week made me twitch. I’m not used to doing it solo…and for men and women that do it day in and day out while working jobs, I tip my hat to you. How do you do it?
I’ll be counting down the days until we are his and hers and his again. Is it Friday yet?
42 Comments
April 14, 2008 at 8:19 pm
Make sure you have some you time in the evening. And I totally do the same - I stay up watching whatever I want when he is away (that would be my hubby, not yours) and then it’s 1am and I know I will regret it in the morning. I have 10 days….and several chocolate bars to see me through!!!!
April 14, 2008 at 8:45 pm
My hubs needs a new idea about gifts too. He brings back shirts for my daughter that are like 5 sizes to big/small. And usually I get squat!
I don’t sleep well without hubs either so I put my daughter in bed with me (in case there is a fire and I can get her out without the help of my hubs) and the dogs sleep in the bed with me as well (Cuz I would have to save their asses too!)
I think I’m a wee bit paranoid!
April 14, 2008 at 8:49 pm
I am freed from single parenthood tom. morning. It’s been tough. Let me tell you, the toddlers won. I am absolutely beat. Good luck to you this week. Email me, or Twitter me if you need a sanity break
April 14, 2008 at 8:53 pm
I can’t sleep without my husband snoring in bed next to me and kneeing and elbowing me. I don’t get it. Good luck with Toddlerville, my thoughts are with you! heh.
April 14, 2008 at 9:17 pm
Spouse used to travel a ridiculous amount for his job, so I have some understanding of this.
It is even more important to stick to the routine when your husband is gone. It will make SD feel better. Although we do fun things like breakfast for dinner or carpet picnics with a movie, too.
But the routine will give you the me time in the evening that you will need to recharge and survive the week.
Hang in there!
April 14, 2008 at 9:24 pm
2 trips in 5 years, yeah presents should be present.
My hubby is gone so often he’d be broke if he did that.
Alram clock - preperations for preschool? He will love playing with it and maybe learn to tell time.
I don’t sleep well when hubby’s gone either and usually end up staying up to well past 3 am but tonight he’s gone and I’m tired and psst I saw Depp and others today, photos shortly. . .
April 14, 2008 at 10:03 pm
All I can say is, Good Luck!
April 14, 2008 at 10:29 pm
My husband travels A LOT! So - I am used to him being gone - but yeah, by Friday - I’m usually dead, cranky, and PMSing when it isn’t even that time of the month.
Oh - and I’m with you - presents bought at the airport do NOT count as “I was thinking about you while on my trip” presents. I hate those kind of presents. My husband went to France and brought back a Bubble blower for my son - WTF?
April 14, 2008 at 11:33 pm
Mr. F leaves tomorrow for an overnight business trip. I’ll probably be up until 3am. Online.
April 15, 2008 at 5:25 am
Ugh. I hate those rare occasions when RxMan is away. That sucks.
And I start getting nervous weeks before he leaves, worrying about all of the things that will certainly go wrong while he is away…
Single parents rock, don’t they?
April 15, 2008 at 6:02 am
I am DREADING Jimmy being gone for 30 freakin’ days in July for work. I can handle a day or three on my own, I’m just super tired and whine a bit more. But, 30 days?!
You can do it. I have complete faith in you. You’re AFF….SuperMom!!
April 15, 2008 at 6:12 am
I know what you mean. I hate it when hubs goes out of town. I don’t sleep and I’m exhausted! I need my time to turn her over to him and take a break!
I hope Friday comes before you know it. Just try to stay busy!
April 15, 2008 at 6:19 am
Oh good luck. I hate being alone in the house. Hope this week flies by for you.
April 15, 2008 at 6:30 am
I would pay big bucks to get my husband out of town for a week. Really. I could sleep when I want to (I’m throwing the dogs in his suitcase in my fantasy here), eat when I want to (meaning cereal every night for dinner cause the kid is easy to feed), and get the house completely clean for a few minutes. It would be beautiful . . .
April 15, 2008 at 7:17 am
I know how you feel! My hubby has to go away several times a year and it’s HARD being a single parent. The first night is always the hardest to sleep too….hopefully it’ll go by quickly! You should reward yourself to a girl’s night dinner with a friend when he gets back - that’s what I do!
April 15, 2008 at 7:34 am
Oh I can never sleep when my husband is out of town. Hope you get some more sleep tonight!
And the single parent thing, YIKES! That’s all I have to say about that. It would be way to hard for me!
April 15, 2008 at 8:20 am
I know how you feel, mine has been on trips three times THIS YEAR, more than he’s been on since Ava was born. It’s hard doing it alone, I don’t sleep good either, and it takes mounds and mounds of energy and patience. (and the occasional adult cocktail, after she’s asleep of course). I tip my hat to anyone who works and takes care of the kiddos!
April 15, 2008 at 9:11 am
I love Curious George!! Can I have it?
April 15, 2008 at 10:08 am
I’m with you on the single parenting. That’s why BN and I waited so long to start a family. He was away all the time and I didn’t want to go it alone. Hang in there! And how’s the paci withdrawals going?
April 15, 2008 at 10:24 am
I give credit to the single parents, too.
When hubby goes away I: 1- Don’t sleep, 2- Drink more (ok, a LOT more) and 3- Turn into psycho mamma from hell.
Hmm, they’re on vacation this week, maybe I should take them some special places (ahh, Mommy-guilt. If only you could bottle it!)
April 15, 2008 at 10:41 am
I feel your pain, I too used to feel that way about business trips. Not so much anymore, Im used to being just the kids and I and now the hubs messes the routine up when hes home.
He does bring the kids home something every.dang.time hes gone…even when its to the same state…..he gets my girls one of the state animals thats embroidered on the front and the boy gets a keychain as hes not into the stuffed animals but loves keychains. I dont know about a 3 yr old though for gifts and whats available at the airport kiosk things. I on the other hand get NOTHING, he never remembers to bring the wife anything…i think i deserve the medal of honor for being the single parent to 3 kids one thats rehabbing from surgery and working part-time too.
hmph LOL….and im a secret chuckecheese lovah too!I love their pizza and enjoy letting my kids go off freely to play….
Best of luck to you!
Tiffany
April 15, 2008 at 11:48 am
Awwww…sorry you are home alone! That stinks! Mr “S” went on a business trip March 17th to KY….he was gone for 3 nights!
This was the first time he had to go on a business trip since we’ve been together (almost 2 years now)! I had a GIRLS NIGHT at the apartment! FUN TIMES!
April 15, 2008 at 12:36 pm
What is a three-year-old going to do with an alarm clock? Where exactly does he have to be in the morning?
April 15, 2008 at 1:18 pm
The alarm clock is so he can get up by himself, go in the kitchen and make himself breakfast after, of course, he dresses himself, and then he can put on a pot of coffee - all while mommy sleeps. Yeah, right.
April 15, 2008 at 1:27 pm
Oh I feel your pain, all I can suggest is LOOOONG baths and games of hide (without the seek). Worked for me.
April 15, 2008 at 1:58 pm
I’m always up late. Really late when hubby is gone. I have hubbyless induced insomnia. BUT, on the flip side of all that, I eat what I want. I watch what I want. I go where I want . . . it is like being free and single all over again . . . but, with an 8-month-old. Yeah, not so free at all, come to think of it.
April 15, 2008 at 4:06 pm
i sleep ultra-bad when my husband is gone. fortunately that doesn’t happen very often — AND i don’t have toddlers anymore.
but i feel your pain. i did single mom with 4 kids for a long long long time. it’s not fun.
April 15, 2008 at 5:27 pm
I’m with melissaz on this one. Routine is so important with little ones. So put SD to bed at his regular time and then just try and relax. Bubbles, books, phone sex….
April 15, 2008 at 7:05 pm
I would love for my husband to occasionally leave for a trip. He bugs me everynight about going to bed at a “resonable” hour. Geesh… I would love to hang out with you online all night.
April 15, 2008 at 7:54 pm
I kinda enjoy the weeks Sam works evenings. He’s home at midnight and that gives me guilt-free evenings to myself and the bed unshared to fall asleep in.
April 15, 2008 at 8:00 pm
Yep, I hate it when D works late and I’m alone with the kids for days on end. Sucks with all 3 but I finally found a groove and now can do it all by myself with my hands tied behind my back.
Bikini hooker golf balls, huh? lol
April 15, 2008 at 8:38 pm
ROFL at the golf balls! Sounds like someone shopping at the Goodwill store could use those
I hate it when hubby leaves for business trips. I’m up all night with all the lights on in the house
April 15, 2008 at 9:10 pm
Ugh. Love the alarm clock, wha?
So sorry. I don’t know how they do it either…good luck counting the hours and sheep tonight.
April 15, 2008 at 9:18 pm
I hate when my husband travels, mass hysteria around here! Of course when he goes it’s usually for weeks at a time. But I get used to him being gone and then he comes home and mucks up my new schedule. Those men can never do right!
April 15, 2008 at 9:43 pm
And you know what? Just when you get used to things being just the two of you, and you get your new routine down they hubby will come home and screw it all up again. It always happens. Either way, it is nice to have them home again. Hope the week goes quickly for you.
April 16, 2008 at 1:40 am
Unless your hubby goes out of town on a regular basis, I would say it’s almost impossible to get used to because it’s so new. And very tough for sure. Now if you had 22 years of my life, you’d be an old pro at being alone and raising kids on your own
Although you would be slightly twitchy and some would question your sanity. But we pretend we don’t see or hear the negative. Hang in there, it won’t be long now!!
April 16, 2008 at 6:57 am
We “do it” by doing all the silly things we don’t do when Dad’s home. We make huge messes in the living room (tents, trains, whatever) and don’t clean them up right away. We eat meals we’d never have if dad were home (hey kids, chicken nuggets and ice cream for dinner? How about pop corn tomorrow?) and when they’re asleep, I watch chick flicks and lay diagonal in MY bed.
It passes the time and the kids love it.
April 16, 2008 at 7:24 am
I just went through this at the beginning of the month. It sucked, and Budman has another trip - to Boston coming up in two weeks. He also turned down TWO other trips they wanted him to take this month AND a trip to Korea this summer! I guess he made a good impression on the first one… I don’t know what I’m gonna do if this becomes a regular thing…
Oh - and about the presents? Men just don’t get it. He refused to do T-shirts, cause they’re cheesy (???I TOTALLY wanted a t-shirt - lol) and then everything in Las Vegas was so ridiculously expensive, that instead of bringing presents for all 3 boys, we just took them to Toys ‘R’ Us on the way home from the airport. (Which was pretty expensive - MEN!)
Hang in there!!
April 16, 2008 at 7:49 am
Aaron always gets sick the day after Kevin leaves for a business trip. It never fails. I hope the week speeds by fast for you.
April 16, 2008 at 8:27 am
I keep seeing you post on Burgh baby’s page so I figured I’d drop in!
I hate when Bud goes on trips too. It makes the week slow and I am exhausted from not sleeping.
I make our 100 pound dog sleep in our bed and between his farts and my waking up to the slightest sound (cause you never know if a burgler is coming in) makes a LONG night. Hope your week is flying!
April 16, 2008 at 9:52 am
Ugh. I did that a couple of months ago. I dont’ see how single parents do it either. Then I almost killed my husband when he got home and declared he didn’t know why I was so tired. This from a man who’s never been alone with the kids for more than 24 hours.
April 17, 2008 at 5:26 am
I did the single parent gig for 3 years. Take some SERIOUS deep breaths and even when the toddler is winning, don’t let him know he is. Other than that, stick to your schedule as close as you can and let the housework and little things slide for right now.
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